#Momboss: What It Is Really Like To Have a Toddler At Work
“A toddler that comes to work with you??? Are you insane???” I get asked this question (or similar) so much that I figured a post is in order. PI am told quite often how “easy” I make it look to have my little one at work. I am so grateful for the HUGE compliment, but I would be totally lying if I said it was always easy. For those of you who don’t know me yet, I am a fashion designer/ celebrity stylist who brings my little one to my studio with me nearly every day. You hear women say it’s all about balance, I say poo to that… it’s all about the juggle. It’s about being able to jump from being the constant food retrieval service to your kid to attempting to work and then jumping back and forth (at least) twelve billion times.
I know am really blessed to be able to bring my daughter with me to work, and I know so many moms wish they could have the same opportunity. Like everything in life, there are pros and cons to having your kids with you at work. We will start chatting about the cons since I always like to end things on a positive note.
The thing that people overlook is that having your toddler at work gives you mom guilt to the extreme. When she is at my studio my focus is really divided. I want to make sure that she is entertained and also learning all day. While paying attention to her, I cant focus on what I need to get done. Being a small business owner, I am the driving force of my business, so I do a lot of the day to day work. Translation; if I don’t do it, it’s not happening, and then I feel like I am failing my team and my business by not doing enough.
Another fun time for all of us in my studio is when we have to deal with the issue of terrible two tantrums. Fortunately, they are few and far between, but when they happen, they are insanely disruptive to eeeevrrryyyone not just in my studio but on the entire floor.
The third is that it’s kind of like bringing a puppy to work; (to all you who are going to scream at me for comparing a child to a dog, hold the phone) everyone loves her and wants to play with her and snuggle her. This is amazing for her confidence and her understanding of love and affection, BUT when you are paying people to do a job that does not include babysitting, this can be a wee bit of a problem.
As promised, here are the positives, and there DEFINITELY are positives. The first is that my daughter gets to see that as women we can have it all. By have it all, I mean we can have our careers as well as having a family. I am raising my daughter to be an empowered female who is loving, kind, and strong! She gets to see me working with a team, nurturing other young girls to follow their dreams, and see me put out one fire after another as well as celebrate all of the successes with some of the most incredible women by my side.
The best part is that I get to be the one to teach her many important life lessons and mold her rather than having her be molded by other people. I grew up with an amazing working mom, so I got to see her working hard but did miss out on spending as much time with her as I would have liked, and I wanted to make sure that my daughter got to have me in her life a lot more since I had the ability to do so.
The third positive is she gets to meet so many different people. Between clients, models, my team and other people in and out of the studio, she is exposed to many different people, personalities and experiences. Her vocabulary is very advanced because of this. Before she was one she knew every color, different types of fabric and learned words some adults don’t even know. Children are like sponges, and mine is soaking up all the rainbow vibes.
Just remember my beautiful friends, the grass isn’t always greener on the other side, its about finding the way to keep your grass green the best that you can.